5 Ways to Ask for What You Want
Contributed article in our professional empowerment series. Enjoy! – Kimberly
During a talk I was explaining the spirit of generosity, the final mindset in my book, The Connector’s Advantage. The idea of giving because you can, because you want to, giving because it feels good to you and without expectation of anything in return.
My passionate please was interrupted when a woman in the audience loudly grumbled, “I’m tired of giving.” She threw her hands up in the air and continued, “No one ever gives back.” I paused quickly trying to determine why this could be happening to her. Then I questioned, “What have you asked for?” With a look of something between surprise and confusion she thought about it for a moment and then, a bit deflated said, “nothing.”
It is hard to ask for what you want, but you’ll never get it unless you do. I always say, “If you don’t ask, the answer is no. If you do ask, you immediately increase your odds.” We can’t expect others to read our minds and know what we want (and yes, that includes our significant others.) So, let’s talk about how to make ‘the ask’ easy so you can get what you want with the least amount of stress.
First, get clear on your fear. Are you worried you will come off as pushy or annoying? Do you feel guilty that you never did anything for them? Are you worried about jeopardizing the friendship or making them feel uncomfortable?
If any of these sounds familiar, choose a strategy to counter your concern. Below are five pressure-free ‘asks’ that snuff the stress out of these situations for you and the person you are asking the favor of.
The “Opt-Out Ask”
When you make this type of request, you will actually provide the reason why they may say no. You want to make ‘no’ as easy as saying yes. After all, yes feels good and no makes me want to avoid you. By making it easy to say ‘no’ you protect the relationship and leave the door open for a ‘yes’ down the road. For example, “I am interested in learning more about the day-to-day responsibilities of your job and the company you work for. Would you be available for an informational interview? If you are too swamped with work, though, I understand.”Continue reading
The Ultimate Explanation for the Term Forex Lot
Contributed article in our financial series. Enjoy! – Kimberly
Very few people have a clear knowledge of the term, “LOT”. We are going to familiarize you with the size of the lot, how you can trade with your small benefit in the Forex market and how to calculate your profit or loss in Forex.
In Forex, the standard lot size is 100,00 units, which is 100k. There are other sizes of Forex lot. They are mini, micro, and nano. Here is a graph to show you the lot size.
Forex Lot size
From the previous article, you will have understood how the movement of pips contributes to your money-making in Forex. When the movement of your pip is positive, you make money. If it is negative, you lose money. You can take the benefits of pips, a very small incremental change of your trading to make a big money out of your trade. Those who prefer to trade commodities know very well that how a slight change in the pip value can alter their profit factors.Continue reading
